Your marriage has likely been over for quite some time even if you are
just beginning the process of divorce. This might seem like the right
time to turn the page and get back into the dating pool, but this is actually
a mistake. Dating before your divorce is officially finalized can actually
have an impact on the outcome of your divorce settlement and affect you
emotionally, making it a wiser decision to postpone finding a new partner
until after the ink on the divorce decree is dry.
Here are some ways in which dating might impact your divorce:
You might not be emotionally ready: No matter how relieved you might be to end your marriage, there is still
something emotionally traumatic about a divorce and you will likely go
through a range of changes as you reconnect with yourself. To date at
this point in your life might not be fair to a potential new partner.
Take some time to make peace with this ending before you move forward.
Jealousy can make your ex act irrationally: Even if your ex wanted the divorce, seeing you with someone new might
spark some feelings of jealousy and make him or her unwilling to reasonably
negotiate a settlement. Additionally, if it turns out your new partner
has a shady history, your ex might fight you even harder for custody and
a judge will likely rule in his or her favor.
- You should be there for your children: If you have children, now is not
the time to introduce a new partner into the mix. They are still reeling
from the news of their parents’ split and are undoubtedly having
a hard time coping. If you have to divide your attention between them,
your divorce, and starting a new relationship, they are going to feel
confused, concerned, and probably even resentful.
Divorce can make you feel lonely, but do not rush into a new relationship
to avoid having to cope with this emotional experience. Start your new
life the right way and wait.
Compassionate Houston Divorce Attorneys
Divorce is never an easy decision to make, but sometimes a necessary one.
If you decided to move forward with a divorce, contact a skilled Houston
divorce attorney at the Law Office of Kathryn Marteeny. Our Houston legal
team is here to offer the caring and effective advocacy you need and ensure
your best interests are protected.
Contact us today at (713) 936-2300 to schedule a consultation.