Mediated divorces are becoming more and more popular options throughout
the United States. Instead of getting involved in lengthy court battles,
couples wishing to divorce quickly and cost-effectively will opt for deciding
most divorce issues through alternative dispute resolution techniques, such as
mediation. However, many people may not know what makes a good mediator. Here are
the best ways to determine whether or not you have a good candidate.
Good mediators will either be trained by other mediators, trained through
formal classroom-style training, or trained through trial by fire. You
want to hire an experienced mediator who has successfully negotiated the
terms of other
divorces. How many others have they handled? How well did the divorce process go?
Look at their reviews so you can see how other couples faired with this
Many times, mediators will write up notes about agreements or will draft
agreements for the parties. Others don’t prepare written agreements.
If you think your mediator will need to draft paperwork for your divorce
process, ask for a sample of their work. An attorney’s writing style
should be clear, well organized, and use a neutral tone. All agreements
should have detailed information about the terms upon which both parties
Part of the benefit of mediation is its cost-effectiveness. Research how
much your mediator will charge. Some attorneys will charge by the hour,
while others will charge by the day. Excellent mediators should be upfront
about the total cost of his or her service.
Advocate for Both
A good mediator for both of you will also have both of your interests at
heart. Neither spouse should be given an advantage over the other. Mediators
must be trained to help you and your spouse find common ground and be
able to maintain the peace. Likewise, they will help both of you create
a creative solution that helps meet the majority of goals for both individuals.
Good mediators can’t be dispassionate about their work. Even if they’ve
done the same thing for years, a mediator should be invested in the lives
of the people they help. Mediators who can empathize with their clients
do their best to help both individuals reach their goals, even if they
may appear at odds.
If you’re interested in the mediation process, don’t hesitate
to give us a call. The Law Office of Kathryn Marteeny is dedicated to
helping people solve their
family law issues quickly and efficiently. Our empathetic Houston family law attorneys have
been helping people for more than 30 years. Let us use our experience
to advocate on behalf of yourself and your spouse during mediation.
Contact us at (713) 936-2300 or fill out our online form to schedule a case consultation today.