The sadness and confusion of a
don’t end simply because legal documents have been signed. Whatever
the circumstances of the separation, your life has irrevocably changed.
Isolation is normal during this period, though not necessarily healthy.
The grief that follows a divorce isn’t to be taken lightly, and
you deserve the time to heal and reassemble your life.
Unfortunately, not even the best of us can dodge the summer wedding season.
To the recent
divorcée, a wedding can be a minefield of sad reminders, emotional whiplash, and
calorie-ridden cakes. Even the simple arrival of an invitation can cause
you to spiral. While tossing your invitation hoard into the trash may
be cathartic, it isn’t always your best option.
The Important Wedding
The first rule in wedding season survival is deciding if this wedding is
important to you. If this is the wedding of a dear friend or family member,
you may want to succumb to the movie-star makeover and hold yourself together
for a night—especially if you’re in the wedding party. Weddings
are a great opportunity to meet and reconnect with people. If you can,
bring a “plus one” or meet up with other friends who are attending.
Do your best to have fun and support the important people in your life
on their big day. Don’t let regrets define your life.
The Polite Escape
If this is the wedding of a coworker or a distant acquaintance, then you
can probably skip the event without any fuss. Just send your regards to
the happy couple and maybe chip in on an expensive gift. One less plate
is a cheaper wedding, after all!
One downside to divorce is that you and your ex-spouse will have overlapping
groups of friends. If your ex is attending the wedding, you’re going
to have to address how the awkwardness will affect you. At this stage
in your life, you must prioritize your emotional needs. If seeing your
ex will hurt you, send your well-wishes to the newly married couple and
plan a night for yourself. However, you also deserve to make good memories
and have a fun time. If you want to go to that wedding, don’t let
your ex be a factor. Surround yourself with your loved ones, look your
best, and hold your head high. You can request a separate table far from
your ex to make the night even better!
It’s difficult to piece your life together after a divorce, so remember
to be kind and gentle with yourself.
If you require the services of a Houston divorce attorney, contact the Law Office of Kathryn Marteeny
(713) 936-2300 to schedule a case evaluation. Our compassionate attorneys will work with
you on a personal level to build an effective case. Let our legal experience