divorce, you and your former spouse will divide your time with the children and,
although you will have two separate households, you must work together
to maintain consistent rules. Consistent routines will help your children
feel safe and secure, reducing any anxiety and stress they may feel regarding
the family’s new dynamics. That said, this situation is just as
new for you as it is for them, so you might not know where to begin when
it comes to creating consistent rules with your former spouse. Continue
reading to learn a few tips that will set you on the right path.
Working with Your Co-Parent to Create Consistent Household Rules
Although it might seem impossible to create consistent household rules
with your co-parent in the aftermath of a divorce, keep in mind that this
is about your children and not about how you might feel about one another.
Your common purpose is to serve the best interests of your children and
collaborating on household rules is one step toward achieving that goal.
Of course, it would be impossible to have identical rules, so it is best
to focus on the big picture and on the issues that you believe matter
most. For example, you should try to agree on when the children should
go to bed, or it might create chaos for the other parent who tries to
enforce an earlier bedtime.
Below are some of the questions you and your co-parent should ask each
other as you work on establishing a routine and rules for your children:
- How should we reward the children for good behavior?
- What are the consequences of failing to follow the rules?
- On which issues is it okay to exhibit some flexibility?
- Should one parent be responsible for dealing with certain issues?
- What are the potential pitfalls of these rules?
- What are the potential benefits of these rules?
- Which issues should we be steadfast on?
- How should we communicate these rules to the kids?
Establishing these rules and boundaries as a team will also help ensure
neither parent is perceived as more fun or more strict, which can create
tension and conflict in a family.
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