It is no secret that the divorce process is often painful and challenging,
especially if you and your spouse spent a substantial amount of years
together. However, there are ways for you to reduce pain and conflict,
so you can both walk away relatively unscathed. If you have children,
divorcing amicably will also be in their best interests and help set the
framework for a healthier co-parenting relationship.
Tips to Assist You Through an Amicable Divorce
Although many of us associate divorce with messy courtroom battles, the
reality is that most spouses do not want to engage in a painful, damaging
process that will ultimately result in misery for both parties. Unfortunately,
if you are unsure of the options available to you or what method will
work best for your circumstances, you might not know where to begin, despite
your desire to pursue a more peaceful path.
Here are some tips that will help you navigate your divorce while minimizing
pain for everyone involved:
Keep your divorce out of court: You do not have to go to court to get a divorce. The litigation process
is inherently adversarial, so if you are trying to make this less painful
for everyone, consider another option, such as
mediation, which will keep you out of court.
Consider therapy: Coping with the end of a marriage is difficult and some days will be harder
than others. Instead of letting your emotions cloud your judgment, discuss
them with a therapist, so you can make decisions based on your attorney’s
knowledgeable advice rather than on impulse.
Leave your kids out of it: Although you should tell your children about the divorce and how it might
affect them, such as whether or not they will change schools, you should
not put them in the middle of the divorce process or use them as messengers.
Divorce is an adult decision that is between you and your spouse, so make
sure both of you keep it that way.
Do not blur the lines with your spouse: Although having an amicable relationship with your soon-to-be former spouse
is ideal, especially for your children, you should not blur the lines
by continuing any form of physical intimacy. Otherwise, the situation
will become confusing for everyone and feelings will undoubtedly get hurt.
Create boundaries: If you and your spouse are no longer living together, you should establish
some boundaries. For example, neither of you should be allowed to invade
the other’s space at will.
Do not use your divorce as a way to exact revenge on your spouse: The decisions you make during the divorce process should be made based
on what is best for you and your children rather than on what will hurt
your spouse the most. It might feel good in the short run, but that satisfaction
will quickly fizzle out.
Discuss Your Legal Options with an Experienced Divorce Attorney Today!
If you are getting a
divorce, contact the team at the Law Office of Kathryn Marteeny to learn more
about how you can get through this process in a pain-free manner while
protecting your interests. Our team has more than three decades of experience,
so you can trust our ability to effectively assist you.
Contact us today at (713) 936-2300 to schedule a consultation.