Although it might be a little too early to plan out your Thanksgiving dinner,
it is not too early for you to consider how you will handle the holiday
season now that you are recently
divorced, especially if you have children. Your parenting plan likely addresses
how time with the kids will be shared, but you are probably less prepared
for navigating this wondrous time of year in other ways. We compiled a
list of tips to help you survive and thrive once the holiday season begins.
Letting Go of the Past
On the days when your children are not with you, the holidays might feel
particularly lonely. You are probably used to certain traditions and family-focused
activities that are no longer possible. However, this does not mean you
have to stay home and dwell on how things used to be. Now is the time
to start your own traditions and explore new ways to enjoy the holiday season.
The wounds might still be fresh, but holding onto the past will not help
you heal. Remember, this is a chance for you to rebuild a better life
that brings you happiness. Moreover, do not pressure yourself into making
this holiday season better than ever. Set realistic expectations and try
not to sweat the small things.
Here is a list of some tips to help you prepare for the coming holiday season:
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Reach out to your friends and family: It is okay to ask for help. If your children are spending time with your
former spouse, attend a get-together with your friends or visit family.
If you would rather stay at home, arrange a little gathering at your place.
The point is to do what you can to gather the support you need during
this challenging time. You cannot expect everyone to know what you need,
so do not be afraid to take the first step.
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Embrace the holiday spirit: What gets you into the holiday mood? For some, its decorations and eggnog.
For others, its twinkling lights and pumpkin-spiced treats. Whatever makes
your heart tick during this special time of year, make it happen.
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Create new traditions: If your children are with you for the holidays, do not get hung up on
recreating the traditions you had when you and your spouse were together.
Mix it up and create new traditions that celebrate the recent changes
rather than mourning them.
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Plan ahead: Do not try to wing it when it comes to the holiday season or you might
find yourself on your own without any plans. You do not have to come up
with anything fancy or elaborate. It can be as simple as reaching out
to friends to find out what holiday party you can attend or looking up
fun local activities to take the kids if they are spending the day with you.
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Take care of yourself: Lastly, do not forget to take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, eat
well, stay active, and try not to worry if everything cannot be perfect.
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