Oftentimes, it is impractical and even ill-advised to move out of the marital
home before a divorce is finalized, particularly if you have children.
If money is tight, trying to essentially manage two households can seriously
eat into your resources, which is why it is sometimes wiser to tough it
out a little while longer until you are officially divorced. Of course,
this is can be easier said than done, so we compiled a list of tips that
will help you peacefully cohabit the same space.
Tips to Help You Live with Your Spouse Until Your Divorce is Finalized
You and your spouse were probably at each other’s throats for a while
before you decided it was time for a divorce and it will surely be a bit
difficult to cool off during this emotional process. However, if one of
you were to move out, that person will experience some serious hardships.
If the relationship was not abusive and neither of you has a volatile
temper, you might want to consider continuing to live together until everything
Here are some tips to get you started:
Stop sharing the same bedroom: Just because you are still living together does not mean you still need
to behave like a married couple. Sharing the same bed can make an already
difficult situation confusing, so remember to keep everything separate.
Otherwise, your divorce might end up becoming a lot more complicated.
If you do not have a spare bedroom, sleep in the living room or temporarily
transform your basement or attic into a bedroom.
Create a schedule: Even if you are still on somewhat amicable terms, it would be a good idea
to create a schedule that allows you to stay out of each other’s
hair. If your spouse is using the basement a spare bedroom, respect his
or her space. If the washer and dryer are there, take care of your laundry
when your spouse is not around.
Exercise discretion: As a general rule of thumb, you should not date until after your divorce
is finalized, but if you decide to date anyway, you should try to be discreet
about it. You do not need to flaunt a new relationship in front of your
spouse and he or she should not have to collect gifts or bouquets of flowers
at the door for you.
Adjust your expectations: It is important to keep in mind that just because everything looks the
same, it does not mean things are the same. You cannot have the same expectations
of your spouse that you did before you began the divorce process. Adjust
your expectations and use this as an opportunity to become more independent.
Obtain the Skilled Legal Guidance You Need!
If you are in the process of getting a
divorce, you need an experienced family law attorney on your side to protect your
interests and to ensure it goes smoothly. At the Law Office of Kathryn
Marteeny, our team is committed to helping clients navigate this end their
marriage, so they can move forward with the next chapter in life.
Call us today at (713) 936-2300 to schedule a case review.