When you were married, you likely celebrated your children’s birthdays
as a family. Now that you are
divorced, navigating birthdays may not be so easy. However, it is important for
parents to set their personal grievances aside to continue to make every
birthday special for their children.
Birthdays After a Divorce
When it comes to celebrating your child’s birthdays in the aftermath
of a divorce, it is crucial to keep in mind that this special day is not
about you. You may be excited about this event or sad about how much life
has changed, but whatever your feelings may be, it is important to focus
on the needs of your child. Moreover, this is not the time for you to
be at war with your former spouse.
Before you or your spouse gets started on making birthday plans, be sure
to find out what your child wants. Not all kids want a big birthday party,
especially if it is so soon after your divorce, and your child is still
having some trouble coping with the changes. Find out what kind of party
your child wants and who should be invited.
Of course, as much as you want to make your child’s wishes come true
on this day, this is not always possible. Some children may ask for things
that are unrealistic or impossible, especially if they are very young.
For example, if your child simply wants to see you and your ex back together,
you need to explain that this is not possible, but that you are still
very excited to celebrate their birthday and make it memorable.
Co-Hosting a Birthday?
If the wounds of your divorce have yet to heal, co-hosting your child’s
birthday with your ex might not be an option yet. However, if you believe
you can work together to host a joint celebration, create a tight game
plan to avoid any misunderstandings or unpleasant surprises.
Reach Out to Our Experienced Family Law Team to Discuss the Details of
Your Case Today!
After a divorce, you may continue to encounter some issues with your former
spouse that require legal guidance. At the Law Office of Kathryn Marteeny,
our legal team can provide the assistance you need to navigate every step
of your family law case.
Call our law office today at
(713) 936-2300 to request a case review with one of our experienced attorneys to get started.