Divorce is difficult for anyone to navigate, but it is especially troubling for
children. If you and your spouse are engaged in a high conflict divorce
and you are concerned about the impact it may have on your kids, there
are steps you can take to help minimize the effect it will have on them.
Continue reading for some advice on how to help your children during this
time of uncertainty.
How to Help Your Kids During a High Conflict Divorce
Every child is unique and, even within your household, your children may
all react in different ways to the conflict precipitated by your divorce.
While they will each certainly have unique responses to this event, there
are some things you can do to lessen their burdens and help them cope
with your family’s new normal.
Here are some tips for you and your co-parent to consider:
- Do not blame your co-parent for your children’s behavior. Instead,
ask yourself how your actions may be contributing to these difficulties.
- If you are sending the message to your children that you are the good guy
and your spouse is the bad guy, this can be harmful to their wellbeing.
Your children deserve to have a relationship with both of their parents,
so it is important to avoid manipulating them into thinking they have
to choose between you or your spouse.
- Children want to feel heard and seen. If your children frequently complain
that you never listen to them, take these words seriously and give them
the attention they need. Ignoring your children’s needs and feelings
will only harm your relationship with them in the long run.
- Do not fight with your spouse about communicating with the children. Your
kids should feel free to reach out to either of their parents whenever
they need to. Doing so will help lessen their anxiety and reassure them
that you will both continue to be there for them despite the divorce.
- If you can afford co-parenting counseling and therapy for your children,
it would be wise to invest in this.
Discuss the Details of Your Divorce with One of Our Skilled Family Law
If you are going through a high conflict divorce, you should not hesitate
to secure experienced legal counsel. At the Law Office of Kathryn Marteeny, our
family law team has more than three decades of combined legal experience. Our team
will fight tirelessly on your behalf for the best possible outcome.
Reach out to our law office today at (713) 936-2300 to set up a consultation.